Are You Self-commitment Phobic?

Reading books, attending development courses, or getting psychic readings will only work if our brain is flexible enough to accept and understand new concepts and truths about ourselves. We need the ability to learn, or to allow ourselves to acquire new perspectives from our experiences, whether good and bad, and it is this that helps us evolve. The continuous process of evolution and adapting to change, dictates our blueprint for change, or our spiritual evolution.

The brain’s natural capability and plasticity allows us to adapt and making change happen- in a split second. The way we react emotionally to change develops our understanding. With understanding comes wisdom. With wisdom, consciousness evolves. As we evolve, we become more in command, though not in control, of our lives.

The truth is any treatment or therapy can work, at least once; but in order to establish a new pattern in our lives for good or for a longer period, repetition is important; in other words commitment. This commitment enables any new change or pattern to become well engrained in our own energy field. Our old patterns took a long time to become established in our mind-body fabric, so sometimes the reason why an old pattern, or an emotional block, is so difficult to shift is simply because we do not keep up the effort long enough to change it and make that shift happen.

Sahar Huneidi

Kathy Cooper, an Australian astrologer, (see says:

“Character determines destiny"

If you are a lazy person and your chart shows that there is a favourable transit operating that could bring rewards if the opportunities are grasped at that very point in time and you choose to sit around doing nothing, then there is little chance that the rewards that are promised will ever eventuate.. A chart may show an abundance of opportunities but if the person does not make the effort to utilise and recognise them, then it will come to nothing.”

As you start changing patterns, it impacts the ego or the lower self, and you begin to feel much better about yourself; your self-esteem rises knowing “I can make change happen.”

 Self-commitment and self-esteem are directly related. Another way of raising your self-esteem is to expand your awareness by allowing yourself to learn new hobbies, or by starting new activities which expand your self-awareness zone. If you are committed to your self-growth, you are guaranteed healthy self-esteem. This is because your brain can now literally grow new ‘neural paths’. As you commit to keeping that up; your brain establishes these new neural connections permanently, and old ones die away.

Self Development

Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, by Daniel Goleman pub.
In this fascinating book, based on brain and behavioural research, Daniel Goleman argues that our IQ- idolizing view of intelligence is far too narrow.
Amazon UK, Amazon USA.

End the Struggle and Dance with Life: How to Build Yourself Up When the World Gets You Down, by Susan Jeffers.
"The power to change is within and Susan places the tools to do so at your feet, all you have to do is have the courage to pick them up and use them."
[quote from Amazon].
Amazon UK
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Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway: How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into Confidence, by Susan Jeffers. A book of advice on how to cope with fear of various kinds of experience, such as public speaking, self-assertion, decision-making, intimacy, being alone, ageing, losing a loved one, and ending a relationship. Amazon UK, Amazon USA.

Get Out of Your Way: Unlocking the Power of Your Mind to Get What You Want, by Layton Park. Layton Park is from British Columbia, Canada and is a Certified Behavioral Analyst. By simplifying the process of self hypnosis he has identified that certain laws of the mind exist and that when they are put into practice, one’s goals can be achieved. Book comes with CD.
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Inner Child Work Book: What to do with your past when it just won't go away [paperback], by Cathryn L. Taylor.
This book is designed as a gentle, step-by-step guide for re-parenting the inner child during the first seven stages of life: as an infant, a toddler, a young child, a grade school child, a young teen, a young adolescent, and a young adult. Using a wide range of tools to do this inner work, the reader is led to explore the issues of grief, shame, and loss at each of the seven stages. Excellent book to work with by yourself. I recommend it.
Amazon UK, Amazon USA.

Iron John: A Book About Men, by Robert Bly.
Robert Bly writes that it is clear to men that the images of adult manhood given by popular culture are worn out, that a man can no longer depend on them. Iron John searches for a new vision of what a man is or could be, drawing on psychology, anthropology, mythology, folklore and legend. Robert Bly looks at the importance of the Wild Man (reminiscent of the Wild Woman in Women Who Run With the Wolves), who he compares to a Zen priest, a shaman or a woodman. 'Important.timely.and powerful' New York Times.
Amazon UK, Amazon USA.

Love Yourself, Heal Your Life Workbook (Insight Guide), by Louise Hay
Based on Louise Hay’s bestselling book You Can Heal Your Life, this interactive workbook is really about change. It directly applies Louise’s techniques of self-love and positive thinking to a wide range of topics that effect us all on a daily basis, including:- Health Fears and Phobias, Sex, Self-Esteem, Money and Prosperity, Friendship, Addictive Behaviour, Work and Intimacy.
Amazon UK
, Amazon USA.

You Can Heal Your Life / You Can Heal Your Life Companion Book / Meditations to Heal Your Life, by Louise L Hay.
Amazon UK, Amazon USA.

Mind Is the Builder, your life is the result, by Dick Daily.
the author explores the theory that "Mind is the Builder" through examining quotes from the Edgar Cayce readings. Practical ad personal. Great little book.
Amazon UK, Amazon USA

Psycho-electronics Raymond Tallis pub. Ferrington 1994. The journeying of terms between the mental and physical realms lies at the roots of the myth that modern neurological science has somehow explained, or will explain, or has advanced our understanding of, what consciousness truly is.

You Can Heal Your Life [AUDIOBOOK, CD] Louise L. Hay (Narrator) pub. Hodder Mobius Audio 1998.
Amazon UK, Amazon USA.

You Can't Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought: A Guide to Positive Thinking, by Peter McWilliams & John Roger."This title is about the power of positive thought - and about how negative thinking can wreck lives."
Amazon UK
, Amazon USA.

Your Pocket Life Coach, by Carole Gaskell.
An inspirational pocket guide to taking charge of your life and unlocking your full potential. It's time to spring clean your life.
Amazon UK
, Amazon USA.


"An individual as an inseparable unit of mind, body and historical culture".

When we are performing a repetitious task the brain knows you do not require ‘its attention’ to protect you.

From the brain's perspective this is boring, and since you are not threatened, the brain let’s down its guard or barriers and boundaries.

The old pattern that are holding us back move out of the way, allowing your intuition to flow even stronger increasing your receptiveness to the process of learning new things, new habits, and new beliefs.

This is the reason why affirmations work. With repetition, old neural paths are replaced by new enforced ones overcoming old habits.

With this process your ‘comfort zone’ gradually expands allowing you to grow even further.

Here are two easy steps to help you:

When you catch yourself at ebb, decide to feel or think differently then act on that decision . This helps dismantle old ways of perceiving yourself, your self-worth goes up.

Learn to extract joy in all what you experience. Change is not about will, it is about love.

Dr. Mario Martinez, (see ) a clinical neuropsychologist with a speciality in psychoneuroimmunology, which is about how emotions and thoughts affect the nervous, endocrine and immune systems; has developed a ‘Biocognition’ theory that views

"the individual as an inseparable unit of mind, body and historical culture". He believes that self-esteem is the gate that allows abundance and joy to come into our lives.

During his workshop at the Psychic College he explained : “commitment for self caring brings self-esteem up. Behaviour persists under very aversive conditions. Will is powered by love. When will is low, then the motivation (for change) is not love.

Will works towards the symbols of love. Addictions and obsessions (established patterns) are distraction. Address what you are avoiding by your obsession. Delaying the rewards is addiction. Learn to love yourself by being self-caring, and self- nurturing. There is an opportunity to extract a ‘gift’ form anything. Teach yourself to extract joy, constantly, from daily activities.”

© Sahar Huneidi

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